Pray about… And Worry About ….!
A while back ago many moons ago Lisa realize her marriage was coming a part at the seams, right in front of her eyes. Her husband of more than eight years was going through a transformation beyond Lisa’s wildest imagination. She supported him in every decision he made because she loved him dearly. She had faith in him that no matter what happened he was going to support her emotionally and financially.
As time went on he quit his job. He did a great job at putting in extra effort to provide for his growing family after quitting his job. He worked in his family’s business for a couple of months to support his growing family. After he quit working with his family , all his work had been under the table, or in exchange for food. Lisa said “he hadn’t given her money in over eleven years, and now she financially supports the family. She’s explained,” that’s why she is fed up with him and the two things he has to offer her, his time and sex.”
If she puts any pressure on him to provide he’ll depend on local food banks, clothing closets, and shelters to provide him a place to eat and sleep. Lisa despises these homeless shelters at times because she feels that they interfere with her husbands responsibilities for providing for his growing family. “He’s way too dependent on free programs for everything,” she feels.
After years of this, Lisa says “she fed up and wants her old husband back. The one that held his chest out with pride and was able to provide for his family. Not the one who is dependent on her, or food banks for everything. He hates Lisa because she does not agree with his new value system.”
Lisa had been going to church and praying to God about this situation for years and each year she sees her husband get more and more bitter and emotionally unattached to her. At this point many people are telling to leave him base on scripture. ” If a man doesn’t work he doesn’t eat.” After reading it on her own she ask God to help. “God helped my marriage she prays.” God answered her prayers, but It wasn’t in the way she thought.
He helped her to become more of a sole financial provider for the family than she was before. She complained, how she never signed up for this type of marriage. She became even more resentful and lost all respect for her husband. Throughout this transformation her husband kept reminding her that God does not want him to work, and that instead of her depending on him to provide for money, she needs to depend on God for it.
She really has no choice in this matter because her husbands attitude and behaviors began to seriously deteriorate. He started hanging out with the unemployed homeless men and had no problem telling her where he spent his time. He told her to “deal with it he is happier now than he’d been In a long time. That’s when she knew that a lot of churches and shelters were in the business of not keeping families together. They are in the business of destroying and enabling families, she says. She still prays for this man to turn his life around, but as long as he keeps getting free handouts his family values are gone.
After fourteen years of her praying and financially supporting her husband and children she became mentally and physically drained. She left, but her husband insisted on keeping their children with him. Although this did not make any sense to her, and to make matters worse their kids wanted this more than he did. She decided to move on. As she stated earlier, ” That’s when she knew that some churches, shelters, and government agencies were not in the business of keeping families together. They were in the business of destroying and enabling families.” Lisa stills continues to pray for her family and others who have experience the same….
What’s your opinion?
What are some of the lessons Lisa learns?
What are her chances of attracting the same types Of men again?
What would you do?
- Where do Christian Wives go to be Trained to be Godly? (peacefulwife.com)
- Marriage Moments ~ # 7 ~ My Top 10 Aspirations (bonesinmyheart.wordpress.com)
- 3 Keys to a Healthy Marriage (removeyourcape.com)
- Why A Husband Struggles To Pray With His Wife? (peacefulwife.com)