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Don’t Hate…

People are put in our lives for many reasons and sometimes we need to love them even if they are thorns in our side. Jesus says,” It is easy to love a person who loves you back, but much harder to love your enemy“. We are supposed to love those who hate us. That’s right love them back to Christ whether you get along, or not. People need people.

Love them back to Christ…don’t hate them!  How can God‘s spirit possibly be a part of your being if you’re hating? Aren’t you suppose to be your brother‘s and/or sister’s keeper, and aren’t they suppose to be yours? Seriously when a person comes to you for your help what do you do?  If and elderly person needs a young persons help how do you respond? You can either ignore them, lead them into a ditch, leave them alone, or lead them back to God’s pathways.

Nowadays people develop relationships with an attitude of what can you give me, or do for me?  This is a very dangerous mindset, In my opinion, because you could be sacrificing the deepest love, or friendship you can ever imagine, If your  basing all your friendships by what a person can bring to your table. It’s a sad affair, or mindset to be In, because everyone loses at the end.

What’s a world filled with greedy people who only value friendships for their material gain? No man/woman is meant to be an island standing alone, all on their own. That’s why from time to time some of us need to go back and be reminded how people use to treat each other like their own brother’s, or sister’s.

Some of us have lost our touch, focus, and faith in what God will do for us through these new friendships we make.  May be some of us do need to go back to His original plan and purpose for our lives, instead of worrying about who will be our next benefactor in our new relationships.  God is your primary provider and benefactor… We all should seek Him and stop chasing after your own values so that our love life’s will become spiritually richer, then everything else will be added to you!

May be we all should take a moment to exam our hearts each time we meet a new friend to find out why we really want to befriend them in the first place. What are your thoughts?

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Wasting Your Time!

How is something a waste of time if it’s a learning experience? Why do people feel and think that when they get the short end of the stick their at a loss, or their time has been wasted? An associate was telling us about a lady he had been talking with for almost two years over the internet. They seen each other in person before one time, and she had been wanting to see him again, but he

thought she was way to aggressive in some of the conversations.  He felt as if she was a waste his time, more like a sponge person when he needed some of his free time to be absorbed. He said when they finally went out she could not keep

her hands to herself.  I asked him why was he wasting his precious time with a sponge anyway?  He said,” why would I turn down an easy lay? I  get bored, desire conversation, need my ego stroked, and need “cookie” like any other man.” There’s nothing wrong with this type of rational thinking if the person has good intentions for

both parties involved. Don’t get me wrong I’m not supporting being a shag. However, this man did say that “he was really ready to settle down and he thought she’d make a good candidate for a wife.

When you are seeking pleasure only in a relationship then there is a fine line between distinguishing what’s healthy and unhealthy.  When both adults agree to enter  into a relationship for pleasure they are not devaluing  love, because both are in it for pleasure only. Whereas when one person values love and the other person  doesn’t and wants the relationship just for pleasure than the relationship will feel unbalanced. Some women go crazy, or over board when they find out their partner just wanted them for a booty call. Men also feel violated when they feel their being used as sex toys.  It’s not fair for either party! Men and women argue and bitch about this pleasure concept endlessly.

A healthy relationship is based on EQUALITY, where both people in the relationship are considered equal and are treated with dignity and respect (something we all deserve in every relationship we are in). A healthy relationship uses compromise and negotiation to reach decisions that both parties are comfortable with and each person’s voice is valued. When this happens, when neither party tries to have power and control over the other, a non-violent and healthy relationship occurs. Healthy relationships don’t demand conformity or perfect agreement.  Be prepared to compromise or to disagree about some things.

Before you get involved in any intimate relationship you should know what you want. Either an acquaintance who is a person you know, but there not a close friend to you, or an associate who is someone who you befriend and enjoy keeping company with. It doesn’t take that long to figure out what kind of relationship category  a person will fall under in your life. But, It does take time to meet people and get to know them…so, make “small talk”…respond to others…smile…keep trying.   Being friends first is more than a cliché — enjoying someone’s company and becoming relaxed around someone are very important aspects of intimacy. A quality friendship takes time to develop.

Michelle Meadows-Thomas ©2012  Spiritualsoulfood. wordpress.com

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Inside Scoop! Overcoming Relationship Battles…

Relationship battles will be around for as long as the earth is alive. And how to articles about getting rid of unhealthy relationship will always be a hot topic.  Everybody plays the fool at some point, and time, in a relationship, and you, nor I , are no exception to this rule. The million dollar question to ask yourself is this: Where is my fine line drawn between love and hate, once I get out of my unhealthy relationship?

In other words, can I get out of a relationship that isn’t working for me and still love that person? Am I going to feel healthy by treating that person as if they are no longer alive? If I do this, what does that say about my character? How would I feel if someone wrote me out of their life? We all need to listen to our own heart and be in touch with your own feelings when it comes to handling our own intimate relationships.

That’s one reason why God wants you to guard your heart. You have to be critical and guard your heart, not just from the person whose breaking it, but from people on the outside who may be influencing your thoughts.  People love talking crap about relationships, and misery loves company. I’m not saying that you should not seek counseling, or other people’s advice on these issues that are troubling your heart. You just have to make sure whatever you decide it’s what you want to do with your relationship. And you should always exam your reasoning behind your decisions.

If your motives  are to cause harm to someone because they hurt you last week. Then ask yourself how long are you going to allow yourself to feel angry, and to be at war with this person? Is he or she worth losing your life for?  If your motives are to resolve the issue fairly and not cause harm, then proceed on with your battle. God has your back! People never stop to think that when they get into relationship conflicts they can become ongoing miniature battles If left unresolved.

You should always stop to take the time out to exam your motives when your relationship is in conflict.  This is why God, says, ” You can be angry, but sin not.” If your being fair and  know what you want out of this disagreement then you should be able to resolve this conflict.

But, remember there is no longer  I or, ” I want” when you’re in a relationship conflict, there’s teamwork! There are a lot of people suffering in relationships that need good sound advice. If you really want to learn about maintaining your relationship, seek God first with all your heart, and all your strength.  When you allow yourself to let God come in and fight your relationship battle for you, that’s when you see the greatest progress! He says, “vengeance belongs to Him”, and you know that God’s revenge is the best.

Let Him do it, and you sit back and recover. That’s when you will truly start your healing process and begin to untangle your relationship problems. You’ll joyfully let go of your hate for… or, anger you may be feeling.  And the sooner you do this you’ll  be in a better position to forgive, and on your way to establishing healthy relationships.

Reminder: There are no secrets, nor right, or wrong way in escaping an abusive relationship that one person has that you don’t already have. You just have to dig a little deeper inside your own heart and this time listen to it, there you will find all your answers to your relationship problems. God’s word….!  What do you think?

Here’s what I like you to do next If you know someone having relationship problems, share this with them. If you know someone whose not having conflict in their relationship you can still share! Sharing is Caring!

By Michelle Meadows-Thomas Spiritualsoulfood. wordpress.com © 2012

7 Ways to Happiness!

Happiness all starts from the inside!

By Michelle Meadows-Thomas

Happiness comes from the inside out , and sometimes from the outside  in. Have you ever wonder why your happiness tank keeps running low, or only last for a few days? It’s You and only you whose responsible for maintaining your levels of happiness. That’s right it’s only you who can provide yourself with that long-term happiness you maybe longing for. Of course,  you can’t leave, or forget about God in this.  After all,”The Spirit of Happiness” is created by God. Change your attitude and watch how happy you become.

1. Each day is God’s gift to you!

It’s God’s way of giving You another chance to walk with him, so turn your day into something beautiful. Start your day with  a healthy attitude by letting go of yesterday, and focusing your mind on where you are at right here and right now. Since you can’t go back in your past to change anything don’t allow your mind to dwell on negative thoughts. There are no could of, or should of…it’s over and done.  Ask God to change your attitude, or behaviors so that you can feel happy, and move forward with your life.  . Remember your goal is to be able to control your happiness level with out depending on someone else, or anything external. True happiness starts inside of you. That’s why God gave you a ” Holy Spirit to comfort you, use it.

2. If you want to be happy:

Focus on how God has transformed your life. It could be worse, or yes… Of course it could be better.  Concentrate on the good moments instead of allowing your mind to go back down memories lane. Look at your disappointments as new experiences to improve your character. This will help you to overcome your worries.   “For God has not given you the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”  Remember that endurance is built by having disappointments in your life. Trust that God will lead you through them.

3. Become more God centered

Instead of being self-centered around your own problems become more God centered. Happiness starts within you by having a healthy attitude about yourself. Attitude is base your own perception if you change your perception about an event, then your attitude will change. That’s why one person can be happy about something while the other person is not. Maybe that person has more faith in God, while the other persons has very little. SINCE you can’t change a persons behaviors pray and ask God to change your attitude about that persons behaviors. Whatever the problem is pray about it.  God will give you the strength to work it out.

4. True happiness 

Exercising your body  on a daily basis can bring you temporary happiness. Most people are willing to exercise their  physical bodies by: jogging, doing aerobics, bike riding, walking, weight lifting, and so on…. These exercises will calm the spirit, but they do not exercise it. You can exercise your spirit through reading, attending small bible study groups, prayer, fasting, worship… These exercises will fuel your spirit with that long-term happiness. When you get into the routine of exercising  your body, your mind, and your spirit.  Your length of happiness will last longer.

5. Forgiveness

There is a powerful healing process that starts in your heart when you forgive others.  God clearly points out “Vengeance is his, it belongs to him.” this may seem contradictory to some belief systems, but God has power over all things. That includes you and I. The overall importance is , If you cannot forgive others then you will not be happy.

6. Freedom

Forgiveness frees the soul from bondage. The spirit of happiness can not be present in you when you dwell on past hurts. You have to release all negative feelings, or grudges your holding against yourself, or others first.  Once you let go, and allowed God to speak to your heart, your levels of happiness will begin to soar.

7.  You can’t Leave God out of the equation.

Your levels of  happiness is based on your belief system not anyone else, that’s between you and  God.  When you become more God centered your feelings of unhappiness will decrease. I am not saying that you won’t have no more disappointments and that you will be a happy camper for rest of your life.  I am saying that you can manage your level of happiness by changing your attitude and behaviors.  It’s time to get that happiness back into your life.

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