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Pray About … And Worry About Nothing!

Pray about… And Worry About ….!

A while back ago many moons ago Lisa realize her marriage was coming a part at the seams, right in front of her eyes. Her husband of more than eight years was going through a transformation beyond Lisa’s wildest imagination.  She supported him in every decision he made because she loved him dearly. She had faith in him that no matter what happened he was going  to support her emotionally and financially.

As time went on he quit his job. He did a great job at putting in extra effort to provide for his growing family after quitting his job. He worked in his family’s business for a couple of months to support his growing family. After he quit working with his family , all his work had been under the table, or in exchange for food. Lisa said “he hadn’t given her money in over eleven years, and now she  financially supports the family.  She’s explained,” that’s why she is fed up with him and the two things he has to offer her, his time and sex.”

If she puts any pressure on him to provide he’ll depend on local food banks, clothing closets, and shelters to provide him a place to eat and sleep. Lisa despises these homeless shelters at times because she feels that they  interfere with her husbands responsibilities for providing for his growing family. “He’s way too dependent on free programs for everything,” she feels.

After years of this, Lisa says “she fed up and wants her old husband back. The one that held his chest out with pride and was able to provide for his family. Not the one who is dependent on her, or food banks for everything. He hates Lisa because she does not agree with his new value system.”

Lisa had been going to church and praying to God about this situation for years and each year she sees her husband get more and more bitter and emotionally unattached to her. At this point many people are telling to leave him base on scripture. ” If a man doesn’t work he doesn’t eat.”  After reading it on her own she ask God to help. “God helped my marriage she prays.” God answered her prayers, but It wasn’t in the way she thought.

He helped her to become more of a sole financial provider for the family than she was before.  She complained, how she never signed up for this type of marriage. She became even more resentful and lost all respect for her husband. Throughout this transformation her husband kept reminding her that God does not want him to work, and that instead of her depending on him to provide for money, she needs to depend on God for it.

She really has no choice in this matter because her husbands attitude and behaviors began to seriously deteriorate. He started hanging out with the unemployed homeless men and had no problem telling her where he spent his time. He told her to “deal with it he is happier now than he’d been In a long time.  That’s when she knew that  a lot of  churches and shelters were in the business of not keeping families together. They are in the business of destroying and enabling families, she says. She still  prays for this man to turn his life around, but as long as he keeps getting  free handouts his family values are gone.

After  fourteen years of her praying and financially supporting her husband and children she became mentally and physically drained. She left, but her husband insisted on keeping their children with him. Although this did not make any sense to her, and to make matters worse their kids wanted this more than he did.  She decided to move on. As she stated earlier, ” That’s when she knew that some churches, shelters, and government agencies were not in the business of keeping families together. They were in the business of destroying and enabling families.” Lisa stills continues to pray for her family and others who have experience the same….

What’s your opinion?

What are some of the lessons Lisa learns?

What are her chances of attracting the same types Of men again?

What would you do?

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A Wake-Up Call: Why more than 95% of Unmarried Couples Share Their Bed

Why do so many couples prefer, or think that “cheating and sleeping around before marriage” is a God-given right to them?  Okay, I get some of it– but maybe not the whole picture.  A lot of unmarried couples share their bed, their  home, their schedules, their bills, car notes, church pews, and their parenting skills. But they don’t share the last name, or a marriage certificate.  Males  are programmed with  strong sexual appetites. Is this an excuses for them being promiscuous or sharing your bed though?  Male reasoning, presumes, that it’s not their fault that their tallywhacker has an appetite like their stomach.  It’s a male’s nature to have that urge, to be relieved.  Ladies, what are some excuses we use for sleeping around? Victims of incest or child abuse are the number one stories. Satan loves using our weaknesses, past hurts, and pains, to trap us into making some foolish life decisions.

Maybe this is one of the reasons more women attend churches than men? They have been strung along emotionally in relationships for so long their tired of playing house. I can easily understand why a lot of men are not to quick to rush into marriage. By the time a women reaches thirty-something, if she not married , she needs to be under God’s protection, in my opinion. Can you imagine her praying to God asking for a husband and yet she has no standards? Thank God for salvation and forgiveness. Can you imagine the male buying into the fact that he can no longer share his tallywhacker with other women? He’s thinking  you supported the open relationship with him in the first place. He thinking that’s a lot power to be given up to one woman who all of a sudden now wants standards. Besides, he’s used to having other ladies lined up to sleep with him when you start acting weird towards him. Ladies, we need to stop being so loose with our standards and start being obedient to God’s instructions.

God knew that men were going to have a hard time controlling their tallywhackers when he created him. That’s why a man knows he needs a women. Genesis 2:24-25, “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh…” God created man with this particular body part in mind to procreate and to have pleasure.  That’s were women come into the picture. Ladies, If your going to be that special pleasure someone for him, you should have his last name.  There are too many women who are no longer reinforcing God’s requirements for men? Ladies, I had to do this to get my husband, and so can you. Ladies, that’s the least we can do for our children’s sake. There’s are lots of benefits having the same last name.

Your husband will “whisper” to you, in you ear, that as long your fulfilling his needs he will be loyal.  But, if you not married to him “why should you expect him to stay loyal? Your not showing him that you have any self-respect, he’s already milking you.  There are tons of benefits that come along with being married. And there are lots of women out there who do set standards, and those are the women that men marry. There’s to many women who will not set the bar high enough for themselves. It’s no wonder,  some men “cheat” and act like, it’s their “God-given right.” Ladies don’t be afraid to raise the bar, if he doesn’t want to marry you then you move on with your life. I did and it worked in my favor.

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