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Don’t Hate…

People are put in our lives for many reasons and sometimes we need to love them even if they are thorns in our side. Jesus says,” It is easy to love a person who loves you back, but much harder to love your enemy“. We are supposed to love those who hate us. That’s right love them back to Christ whether you get along, or not. People need people.

Love them back to Christ…don’t hate them!  How can God‘s spirit possibly be a part of your being if you’re hating? Aren’t you suppose to be your brother‘s and/or sister’s keeper, and aren’t they suppose to be yours? Seriously when a person comes to you for your help what do you do?  If and elderly person needs a young persons help how do you respond? You can either ignore them, lead them into a ditch, leave them alone, or lead them back to God’s pathways.

Nowadays people develop relationships with an attitude of what can you give me, or do for me?  This is a very dangerous mindset, In my opinion, because you could be sacrificing the deepest love, or friendship you can ever imagine, If your  basing all your friendships by what a person can bring to your table. It’s a sad affair, or mindset to be In, because everyone loses at the end.

What’s a world filled with greedy people who only value friendships for their material gain? No man/woman is meant to be an island standing alone, all on their own. That’s why from time to time some of us need to go back and be reminded how people use to treat each other like their own brother’s, or sister’s.

Some of us have lost our touch, focus, and faith in what God will do for us through these new friendships we make.  May be some of us do need to go back to His original plan and purpose for our lives, instead of worrying about who will be our next benefactor in our new relationships.  God is your primary provider and benefactor… We all should seek Him and stop chasing after your own values so that our love life’s will become spiritually richer, then everything else will be added to you!

May be we all should take a moment to exam our hearts each time we meet a new friend to find out why we really want to befriend them in the first place. What are your thoughts?

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A Wake-Up Call: Why more than 95% of Unmarried Couples Share Their Bed

Why do so many couples prefer, or think that “cheating and sleeping around before marriage” is a God-given right to them?  Okay, I get some of it– but maybe not the whole picture.  A lot of unmarried couples share their bed, their  home, their schedules, their bills, car notes, church pews, and their parenting skills. But they don’t share the last name, or a marriage certificate.  Males  are programmed with  strong sexual appetites. Is this an excuses for them being promiscuous or sharing your bed though?  Male reasoning, presumes, that it’s not their fault that their tallywhacker has an appetite like their stomach.  It’s a male’s nature to have that urge, to be relieved.  Ladies, what are some excuses we use for sleeping around? Victims of incest or child abuse are the number one stories. Satan loves using our weaknesses, past hurts, and pains, to trap us into making some foolish life decisions.

Maybe this is one of the reasons more women attend churches than men? They have been strung along emotionally in relationships for so long their tired of playing house. I can easily understand why a lot of men are not to quick to rush into marriage. By the time a women reaches thirty-something, if she not married , she needs to be under God’s protection, in my opinion. Can you imagine her praying to God asking for a husband and yet she has no standards? Thank God for salvation and forgiveness. Can you imagine the male buying into the fact that he can no longer share his tallywhacker with other women? He’s thinking  you supported the open relationship with him in the first place. He thinking that’s a lot power to be given up to one woman who all of a sudden now wants standards. Besides, he’s used to having other ladies lined up to sleep with him when you start acting weird towards him. Ladies, we need to stop being so loose with our standards and start being obedient to God’s instructions.

God knew that men were going to have a hard time controlling their tallywhackers when he created him. That’s why a man knows he needs a women. Genesis 2:24-25, “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh…” God created man with this particular body part in mind to procreate and to have pleasure.  That’s were women come into the picture. Ladies, If your going to be that special pleasure someone for him, you should have his last name.  There are too many women who are no longer reinforcing God’s requirements for men? Ladies, I had to do this to get my husband, and so can you. Ladies, that’s the least we can do for our children’s sake. There’s are lots of benefits having the same last name.

Your husband will “whisper” to you, in you ear, that as long your fulfilling his needs he will be loyal.  But, if you not married to him “why should you expect him to stay loyal? Your not showing him that you have any self-respect, he’s already milking you.  There are tons of benefits that come along with being married. And there are lots of women out there who do set standards, and those are the women that men marry. There’s to many women who will not set the bar high enough for themselves. It’s no wonder,  some men “cheat” and act like, it’s their “God-given right.” Ladies don’t be afraid to raise the bar, if he doesn’t want to marry you then you move on with your life. I did and it worked in my favor.

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Copyright © 2012 Michelle Meadows-Thomas

Resuscitating Friendships

A Good friendships actually Improves the Health

Do all great friendships have to come to an end? Like living organisms, relationships have a beginning, a middle lifespan, and an end. ” They tend to grow and improve gradually, as people get to know each other and become closer emotionally, or they gradually deteriorate as people drift apart, move on with their lives and form new relationships with others.”  I believe, God wants us to develop some of those friendships throughout a lifetime. And to be smart enough to accept the fact that he is going to move certain friends out of our lives.

There is a growing trend that the average adult relationships in America has more permanent adult enemies, and fewer adult friends. God doesn’t want us to live like this.  Everyone knows the saying, ” keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” God doesn’t want us to put our friendships on the shelf just because of disagreements, or because of some outcome we expected has gone sour. He wants us to master how we can make our relationship greater.

I know God has placed people in my life for various reasons to teach me valuable lessons, some good and some harsh.  I wouldn’t be to quick to zap a person out of my life just because they mistreated me , or didn’t provide something, that I wanted to happen in my life.  It would be foolish for me to do so. It would be really foolish for me to believe that I can truly have an intimate relationship with God if I went through life constantly isolating myself from friendships gone wrong. It would be a great lost to my development if I prematurely terminated the people in my life that God has sent to me.

Even good friends fallout sometimes, people who are dear to your heart don’t come a dime a dozen.  If we can’t learn to live with them and get along with the people God place in our lives, what good are we to humanity? Isn’t that what relationships and friendships are designed for?  God gave Adam a helpmate so that he would not have to be alone. Relationships and friendships are supposed to bring out the best, and/or sometimes even the worst in us.  True friends accepts you for who you are, and  a good friend will always be there for you in time of need.