Why do so many couples prefer, or think that “cheating and sleeping around before marriage” is a God-given right to them? Okay, I get some of it– but maybe not the whole picture. A lot of unmarried couples share their bed, their home, their schedules, their bills, car notes, church pews, and their parenting skills. But they don’t share the last name, or a marriage certificate. Males are programmed with strong sexual appetites. Is this an excuses for them being promiscuous or sharing your bed though? Male reasoning, presumes, that it’s not their fault that their tallywhacker has an appetite like their stomach. It’s a male’s nature to have that urge, to be relieved. Ladies, what are some excuses we use for sleeping around? Victims of incest or child abuse are the number one stories. Satan loves using our weaknesses, past hurts, and pains, to trap us into making some foolish life decisions.
Maybe this is one of the reasons more women attend churches than men? They have been strung along emotionally in relationships for so long their tired of playing house. I can easily understand why a lot of men are not to quick to rush into marriage. By the time a women reaches thirty-something, if she not married , she needs to be under God’s protection, in my opinion. Can you imagine her praying to God asking for a husband and yet she has no standards? Thank God for salvation and forgiveness. Can you imagine the male buying into the fact that he can no longer share his tallywhacker with other women? He’s thinking you supported the open relationship with him in the first place. He thinking that’s a lot power to be given up to one woman who all of a sudden now wants standards. Besides, he’s used to having other ladies lined up to sleep with him when you start acting weird towards him. Ladies, we need to stop being so loose with our standards and start being obedient to God’s instructions.
God knew that men were going to have a hard time controlling their tallywhackers when he created him. That’s why a man knows he needs a women. Genesis 2:24-25, “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh…” God created man with this particular body part in mind to procreate and to have pleasure. That’s were women come into the picture. Ladies, If your going to be that special pleasure someone for him, you should have his last name. There are too many women who are no longer reinforcing God’s requirements for men? Ladies, I had to do this to get my husband, and so can you. Ladies, that’s the least we can do for our children’s sake. There’s are lots of benefits having the same last name.
Your husband will “whisper” to you, in you ear, that as long your fulfilling his needs he will be loyal. But, if you not married to him “why should you expect him to stay loyal? Your not showing him that you have any self-respect, he’s already milking you. There are tons of benefits that come along with being married. And there are lots of women out there who do set standards, and those are the women that men marry. There’s to many women who will not set the bar high enough for themselves. It’s no wonder, some men “cheat” and act like, it’s their “God-given right.” Ladies don’t be afraid to raise the bar, if he doesn’t want to marry you then you move on with your life. I did and it worked in my favor.
Copyright © 2012 Michelle Meadows-Thomas
The greatest inhibitor between my relationship with God and myself is my own fear. Everything I do, think, or say effects my spirit. Therefore, I have to be careful, and very selective in what I’m thinking about, in what I am doing, and what I am saying. Using God’s word to combat my conflicts, instead of blurting out the first thoughts that come to my mind has been a valuable tool for me.
Lord knows if I did not have a Godly spirit in me I would be using every curse word, and them some… to express myself. I thank God that I am no longer foolish enough to leave myself wide open for Satan‘s attacks. God knows this is a serious matter for a lot of people that’s why he gave us His word to use instead of saying the first words that come to our heart.
The fear of heartache has led me closer to the love that God has always wanted to give me. I’ve had enough heartaches in my life time to realize the heart is nothing to be played with. Proverbs 4:23″ Above all else guard your heart, for it determines the course of your life.” Don’t forget to guard your hearts and your thoughts. I know, it seems like by just believing in God that he should naturally protected us. Well, it’s not that simple. We have to groom our spirit daily and before going to bed. Your spirit needs grooming every morning just like when you go into the bathroom every morning , to shower, to brush our teeth, and to put on our clothes.
Our spirits also needs grooming before we prepare for bed at night. [Hence] “don’t let the sun go down without resolving your anger.” Do you recall this famous children’s prayer? A very powerful, but short bedtime prayer for kids. “Now I lay my soul down to sleep I pray to the lord my soul to keep.
Speaking of protection we just assume God is going to put his protective covering over us even when we don’t do the necessary ground work of grooming our own spirits daily. God did say, “Gen 15:2, “the word of God came to Abraham , “I am your shield ,” but– I believe God still wants us too actively apply his words into our lives. We must get into the habit of Speaking the word of God over ourselves rather than our own toxic thoughts. Death and life are in the power of your tongue, start grooming your spirit by “putting on the whole armor of God.” See Ephesians 6:13.
This should inspire, or at most, help to get you in the mood for grooming your spirit. You don’t have to do all five things at once. You may want to start with one or two of them. I would pick the ones I am comfortable with doing first, and it’s up to you to add the other ones at your discretion.
You have to develop your own style for grooming your spirit. These are just some suggestions. Every one of us is different; it’s your job to discover what routine works best for you. Some people like writing in journals, singing gospel songs, praying, or using their prayer language, to groom their spirit.
Whatever you decide to do, do something to groom your spirit before starting your day. I’ll read a favorite scripture from a bible that speaks specifically to my heart that feels liberating to me. I’ll Read it until it soothes my soul and becomes a part of my being. Most of the time I can apply my favorite scriptures in my life where I see fit. Sometimes I like to share my favorite scripture at a bible study, or with friends, or family. This reminds me to groom my spirit . Your first step in developing a habit to start grooming your spirit is finding something that works for you. I believe if you study, study, and study God’s word until you get the understanding and wisdom that you’re seeking, you will be well on the way of grooming your spirit.
We all are capable of disciplining ourselves to groom our spirits every morning. Establishing a routine when you wake up is the first thing you can do. Talk to God before you get out of bed each morning. We all need to establish a Godly , a rote , do-able, daily something that elevates and grooms the spirit. For me, I write comments on my Praise And Worship facebook page, at least three times a day. I use this to fall back on, if I forget to groom my spirit. How about you, what do you do?
Looking back over the year, I often ask myself the question where would I be if I did not have faith in God? Some of my own family members believe it’s my excuse to depend on an abstract deity, so that I will not have to take full responsibility for my own thoughts and behaviors. No it’s not that for me. It’s my choice to serve God. Serving God Is not about blaming ones thoughts and behaviors on God. It’s about me having a strong desire to be the woman God’s wants me to be.
God says, “ He does wants us to cast all of our cares onto him.” Jesus says “For my yoke is easy and my burden light”~Matthews 11:30, Some people may not agree with this, and think that serving God is a facade to hide all the things one may doing wrong. It’s a God given gift, to be able to interact with him on a daily basis. To be able to go to God with in your own minds eye, and heart is a miracle in it itself. I don’t think to many people willingly refuse to engage their imagination about the concept God even if they decide not to believe in him, or his words.
I rather be made fun of, mocked, called foolish, and crazy, than to give up my belief in God. Again, I know where I would be without him. I am not perfect, but God is. “ Oh how much do we lose by not educating our imagination to dwell upon divine Godly things…?”
Happiness all starts from the inside!
By Michelle Meadows-Thomas
It’s God’s way of giving You another chance to walk with him, so turn your day into something beautiful. Start your day with a healthy attitude by letting go of yesterday, and focusing your mind on where you are at right here and right now. Since you can’t go back in your past to change anything don’t allow your mind to dwell on negative thoughts. There are no could of, or should of…it’s over and done. Ask God to change your attitude, or behaviors so that you can feel happy, and move forward with your life. . Remember your goal is to be able to control your happiness level with out depending on someone else, or anything external. True happiness starts inside of you. That’s why God gave you a ” Holy Spirit to comfort you, use it.
Focus on how God has transformed your life. It could be worse, or yes… Of course it could be better. Concentrate on the good moments instead of allowing your mind to go back down memories lane. Look at your disappointments as new experiences to improve your character. This will help you to overcome your worries. “For God has not given you the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” Remember that endurance is built by having disappointments in your life. Trust that God will lead you through them.
Instead of being self-centered around your own problems become more God centered. Happiness starts within you by having a healthy attitude about yourself. Attitude is base your own perception if you change your perception about an event, then your attitude will change. That’s why one person can be happy about something while the other person is not. Maybe that person has more faith in God, while the other persons has very little. SINCE you can’t change a persons behaviors pray and ask God to change your attitude about that persons behaviors. Whatever the problem is pray about it. God will give you the strength to work it out.
Exercising your body on a daily basis can bring you temporary happiness. Most people are willing to exercise their physical bodies by: jogging, doing aerobics, bike riding, walking, weight lifting, and so on…. These exercises will calm the spirit, but they do not exercise it. You can exercise your spirit through reading, attending small bible study groups, prayer, fasting, worship… These exercises will fuel your spirit with that long-term happiness. When you get into the routine of exercising your body, your mind, and your spirit. Your length of happiness will last longer.
There is a powerful healing process that starts in your heart when you forgive others. God clearly points out “Vengeance is his, it belongs to him.” this may seem contradictory to some belief systems, but God has power over all things. That includes you and I. The overall importance is , If you cannot forgive others then you will not be happy.
Forgiveness frees the soul from bondage. The spirit of happiness can not be present in you when you dwell on past hurts. You have to release all negative feelings, or grudges your holding against yourself, or others first. Once you let go, and allowed God to speak to your heart, your levels of happiness will begin to soar.
Your levels of happiness is based on your belief system not anyone else, that’s between you and God. When you become more God centered your feelings of unhappiness will decrease. I am not saying that you won’t have no more disappointments and that you will be a happy camper for rest of your life. I am saying that you can manage your level of happiness by changing your attitude and behaviors. It’s time to get that happiness back into your life.
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