Relationship battles will be around for as long as the earth is alive. And how to articles about getting rid of unhealthy relationship will always be a hot topic. Everybody plays the fool at some point, and time, in a relationship, and you, nor I , are no exception to this rule. The million dollar question to ask yourself is this: Where is my fine line drawn between love and hate, once I get out of my unhealthy relationship?
In other words, can I get out of a relationship that isn’t working for me and still love that person? Am I going to feel healthy by treating that person as if they are no longer alive? If I do this, what does that say about my character? How would I feel if someone wrote me out of their life? We all need to listen to our own heart and be in touch with your own feelings when it comes to handling our own intimate relationships.
That’s one reason why God wants you to guard your heart. You have to be critical and guard your heart, not just from the person whose breaking it, but from people on the outside who may be influencing your thoughts. People love talking crap about relationships, and misery loves company. I’m not saying that you should not seek counseling, or other people’s advice on these issues that are troubling your heart. You just have to make sure whatever you decide it’s what you want to do with your relationship. And you should always exam your reasoning behind your decisions.
If your motives are to cause harm to someone because they hurt you last week. Then ask yourself how long are you going to allow yourself to feel angry, and to be at war with this person? Is he or she worth losing your life for? If your motives are to resolve the issue fairly and not cause harm, then proceed on with your battle. God has your back! People never stop to think that when they get into relationship conflicts they can become ongoing miniature battles If left unresolved.
You should always stop to take the time out to exam your motives when your relationship is in conflict. This is why God, says, ” You can be angry, but sin not.” If your being fair and know what you want out of this disagreement then you should be able to resolve this conflict.
But, remember there is no longer I or, ” I want” when you’re in a relationship conflict, there’s teamwork! There are a lot of people suffering in relationships that need good sound advice. If you really want to learn about maintaining your relationship, seek God first with all your heart, and all your strength. When you allow yourself to let God come in and fight your relationship battle for you, that’s when you see the greatest progress! He says, “vengeance belongs to Him”, and you know that God’s revenge is the best.
Let Him do it, and you sit back and recover. That’s when you will truly start your healing process and begin to untangle your relationship problems. You’ll joyfully let go of your hate for… or, anger you may be feeling. And the sooner you do this you’ll be in a better position to forgive, and on your way to establishing healthy relationships.
Reminder: There are no secrets, nor right, or wrong way in escaping an abusive relationship that one person has that you don’t already have. You just have to dig a little deeper inside your own heart and this time listen to it, there you will find all your answers to your relationship problems. God’s word….! What do you think?
Here’s what I like you to do next If you know someone having relationship problems, share this with them. If you know someone whose not having conflict in their relationship you can still share! Sharing is Caring!
By Michelle Meadows-Thomas Spiritualsoulfood. wordpress.com © 2012
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